Thursday, September 30, 2010

self portrait thursday: ugh

am i still there?
 self portrait thursday: in which a bunch of unrelated people all take pictures of themselves and post them to this group on flickr

aka where I have a look inside my head to see what's kicking around in there today.

Today .... well I'm going to riff (a little, well probably going off at a tangent) off Amber's Crafting My Life Thursday posts which have been 'theme-ing' on support and relationships and dreaming your dreams, during September.

Well ..... I have my dreams, and they're as subject to knock-downs, lacks of confidence, doubt and plain old fear as the next SAHM. Just when you're getting to grips, convincing yourself that you can make it a reality, a big old knock down comes along. In my case, it's usually a lack of support that delivers the biggest K.O. to my psyche. I scuttle back into believing that nothing I do will ever amount to much and I'll be stuck in my miserable, unfulfilling existence of unappreciated domestic servitude.

With a widespread base of support, failures are easy to ignore and probably don't crap you out that much. My trouble is that I have such a very small support network and failures hit hard. In contrast, my sister, who is battling a much larger subset of demons, has a very enviable, widely spread support base, of which I am truly jealous (honest!). She has a varied group of friends, work colleagues and online acquaintances who she can draw on for strength. They rally round her, and I'm sure around each other when needed. She has a real gift for making friends and keeping them, whereas I am Norman No Mates because of my hermit-like tendencies to retire to my cave to lick my wounds.

Sadly I've always preferred to muddle through things on my own, which only works when you are in fact on your own. Although family can be a great support network, when you feel let down there's really no getting away from it :(  and lack of support translates into a lack of confidence in what you're doing ... and so on .... Hence, the need to cultivate a larger support network .... and stop wasting time mulling over it when it goes wrong.

re-inventing myself

But what to do, what to do? I feel like a mercenary going out to seek recruits for my support network. I'm not the greatest of pals (but I'm not completely boring either). I'd rather have occasional coffee dates than a deeply meaningful bonding weekend together. I like company but I also like time alone. Am I 'friend' material? Do I need to reinvent myself.

Coincidentally, I've solved another of my support conundrums with after-school care two afternoons a week.

If I can buy childcare support, can I rent out some friends too?

or fading away?

Ingredient Alert! Should You Be Worried?

Digging Under Rocks

In a past article on Sodium Lauryl Sulfate, I shared a comparison where many seem to enjoy making claims about SLS being used for industrial purposes, like cleaning garage floors, or that silicone is a mechanical lubricant or propylene glycol is used in anti-freeze.

So I guess this is the basis of an argument, as to why are these in cosmetics or personal care products? And in many cases this is the premise which EWG and Campaign for Safe Cosmetics, along with many scientifically challenged bloggers or all natural companies (for monetary purposes) continue to place these in the forefront of their scare tactics by placing concern, where none need be.

Below is a perfect analogy represented by my guest, Dene Godfrey, of an ingredient which is typically overlooked, yet based on its' uses and the potential to cause harm, why IS this one continuously overlooked? I mean there is plenty of ridiculous hyperbole disseminated about other ingredients....shouldn't this one be included? You make the call......

Ingredient Alert

Many observers and commentators from outside the cosmetics industry often highlight the fact that propylene glycol is also used in antifreeze and industrial cleaning products and, therefore, they claim it is unsuitable for use in cosmetics (either overtly, or by implication). These commentators are, however, missing a much more frequently used cosmetic ingredient, with an even more insidious “resume”.

This ingredient is used in:
  • Antifreeze
  • Industrial cleaning products
  • Bleach preparations
  • Car battery acid (!!!!)
  • Industrial cooling towers
  • Industrial cutting fluids
And many other industrial applications.

Furthermore, this ingredient is present in ALL cancer cells, is a major component in human and animal excreta (ugh – and we put THIS in cosmetics!) and also has the following toxicological properties:
  • Causes death by inhalation
  • Can cause death by ingestion
  • The gaseous form can cause skin burns
  • Prolonged exposure to the skin has unpleasant effects on skin appearance
So propylene glycol seems mild in comparison. It is clear to me that the industry has a huge responsibility to invoke the Precautionary Principle and take immediate steps to remove this dangerous ingredient from ALL cosmetics as soon as possible. After all, who needs water anyway?

Water is also present (in fairly low concentrations) in bovine faeces. Need I say more?

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Additional note by author in reference to a private message received:

The point of this article is to illustrate the nonsensical use of genuine facts taken completely out of context to demonstrate a point. In this instance, I am showing that there is no logic in suggesting that, because propylene glycol is also used in other, non-cosmetic applications, this is a reason to claim that it should not be used in cosmetics. There is no law that states that any particular substance may only be used in one specific industry, and the fact that propylene glycol happens to be highly useful in antifreeze has no bearing whatsoever on its suitability, or otherwise, in cosmetics. If you take the facts about water, as I have presented them, out of the comfortable context of thinking you know that it is totally safe, then it can sound scary. This is why I deliberately did not actually name the mystery ingredient as being water until right at the end, because it would have detracted from my point. I hope that, after reading this article, people will understand that to claim that ANY ingredient should not be used in cosmetics just because it has other uses is nonsense. Should we not sprinkle salt on our food – after all, it is used on roads to prevent ice from forming!

More about the author: Dene Godfrey has been involved with preservatives for cosmetics since 1981, from both technical and commercial angles and has a degree in chemistry.



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Wednesday, September 29, 2010

wordless wednesday: up above the clouds this morning

wonderful inversion means sunshine up here despit fog warnings below

hightailing it
school run in the morning sunshine

homebaked love in a tin
fuel for the day

long daisy chain
today's projects to replace these which went to the giftshop yesterday

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

taking time (almost tempo rubato)


by lunchtime, originally uploaded by ebbandflo_pomomama.
Not quite a tempo rubato moment but almost.

This week I'm trying to follow the advice of an online bloggy friend who is "taking back her lunch hour". Well, whoops dammit! I forgot yesterday but certainly made up for it today.

My creation

This morning, after dropping off the Wee Guy at school, I made a cup of tea and settled down on the bench on the deck to read thru a couple of fashion magazines (purely in the interests of research for the jewelry business, honest - Fall/Winter trends and all that). It was just warm enough to read comfortably and not feel like hurrying in from the chill. A good start to the day (I made some more long daisy chains to replace the ones sold in the Blackberry Gift Shop last week ... woot!).

As I toiled in my dim studio (my workroom is on the gloomy side of the house) the clouds scuttered and the sun came out. By lunchtime, which I remembered about today, the deck was like a sauna. My tomato tart and salad tasted positively mediterranean. I read cookery magazines and stayed away from work.

lunchtime

It's damned difficult scheduling decent breaks in the day working from home. If I do get up from my bench, there's this piece of housewark and that bit of tidying up to do. Work surrounds me. Though I am very good at ignoring the domestic crises, I do find that with limited time I tend to spend every last minute 'working' until I have to pick up the Wee Guy after school. It's not very efficient and it's not very smart.

Working smarter not longer.
Bon appetit!

PS: the watch waited until school pick up time to go all rubato on me

Monday, September 27, 2010

The Top 20 Things I Learned While Living in Paris- #17- Deprive Yourself Not



Of pastries that is. When I first arrived in Paris I would regard the shop windows of the Patisseries with simultaneous longing and fear. The desserts looks so delicious- so tempting. What if I ate them and gained weight? Finally, I just succumbed and figured "when in Paris"... (I could always hit the gym when I got back to L.A.)

But then a miraculous thing happened. I wasn't gaining weight and I found I was really enjoying myself. I learned there is absolutely nothing wrong with having one gorgeous, decadent well made pastry or dessert a day, if that is what you desire.

The key factor (and this may sound strange) is to enjoy it. Every moment.

Enjoy it slowly. Enjoy it with an espresso. Enjoy it alone or with a friend… or even better yet- with a lover! But make sure that you by all means enjoy it thoroughly and in the present moment. No beating yourself up over it, s'il vous plaît .

Chocolate éclair? Divine, savor that delicious filling. Tarte aux fraises ? Fabulous, how do those seasonal berries taste? Don’t think about calories, or your thighs, or how you’ll have to put in an extra hour at the gym. That sort of thinking is rubbish (and so unsexy). What is the point?

Relish it with extreme pleasure, and eat slowly and mindfully. That way you are less likely to have two or three (and let's face it- we've all been there before).

And finally make sure that you are savoring a high quality dessert- Twinkies, Ho-hos and other inferior products do not count- in fact banish them from your repertoire. If a well made pastry (or chocolate) is not within your reach, you’ll simply have to go without- never settle.

Yes, one of the sweeter lessons I learned while living in Paris is not only are pastries and other sweet delights OK- but they are a necessary part of living a pleasurable existence. Deprive yourself not.

Won’t you stay tuned for #16?

The above picture was taken of me at some café in Paris (there were so many!). I’m not sure why I’m laughing with my head in hand here. I believe my afternoon tea companion kept stopping passers-by to take my picture and it all became a bit ridiculous. Even the waiter is looking the other way…

tempo rubato

artist at work

Tempo rubato (quite literally 'robbed time') is an expression in music which, roughly translated, means "anything goes". It's used to escape the confines of a strict rhythm, allowing the conductor or soloist to interpret a passage as they see fit. Soloists often use it to great effect during a cadenza, where they get to show off their virtuoso playing while the rest of the orchestra sits around twiddling their thumbs (or sneaks out for a sly fag - remember those prolonged drum solos from the seventies? no, of course you don't little one but there's a wicked list here).

collaboration with Agata

A true tempo rubato moment should inject a feeling of improvised spontaneity into a piece, and should not be trotted out in a similar format time and time again. It's not obligatory to "rubato" but it sure helps if you can do it well.

tiger tea

Or if you can do it in ignorance .... which we did at the arts festival this weekend when my wrist watch decided to 'tempo rubato' all by its sweet self, thus making me believe we had been waaaaay shorter at the event than we had. Thus there was no hurry to get away back home to rescue daddy and we made floral art with Agata, completed our annual raku painting, made buttons with Sarah, did a screen printing with Candice, ate hot dogs, became a tiger, and splashed in soapy bubbles.

working with Candice

Today my watch is apparently keeping Normal Time .... but secretly I'm hoping for some rubato sometime soon :)

... and now for this week's Meet Me On Monday Q's

1.  How many TV’s do you have in your home?
- only two, unless you count computer monitors/screens and then we have six (or more)

2.  What is on your bedside table (nightstand)?
- pen, pencil, knitting, sundry 'toys', notebook, a couple of books, inhalers .... well, you did ask!
3.  How many pair of shoes do you own?
- i refuse to divulge (my husband reads my blog)
4.  Can you change a flat tire?
- oh yes! can't everyone?
5.  Do you prefer sweet treats or salty treats?
- chocolate doesn't count as a treat so i'll say salty :)

Sunday, September 26, 2010

sunday's question

afternoon tea with The Daily Tiger (solarised!)

Wee Guy: How did people light their houses before electricity was invented?
Me: Well .... they used to set fire to a small sheep and try to get everything done before it went out.
Wee Guy: Oh

Wee Guy: What did people eat before there was electricity?
Me: Well .... once the sheep had gone out it was nicely roasted so the people in the house ate it.

Parenting? Pah! It's easy.

Saturday, September 25, 2010

Happy trails

Saturday's fun family activity was a picnic at Buntzen Lake. I was curious to see how flooded the beach area is with the upstream BC Hydro work in progress. It was completely flooded much to the delight of the local sluggish population. Every trail was a veritable slug fest. Great fun for junior naturalist.

Friday, September 24, 2010

friday forte: the halt

a trip to the PNE

Forty five is quite a momentous age for me. For one thing, it's come to mean the middle of life - a time when I'm potentially looking forward to an equal number of years that I have left behind me. It's actually become quite a comforting time. Ten years ago, which is midlife for the traditional three score years and ten, was much more angst-ridden. It was a new millenium, work was a drag, and I was no longer a 'bright young thing'. Ten years on - I'm comfortable in my skin.

Forty five has meant though, an end to my fertility. Or should I justify that as in the final decision to halt my fertility. The Wee Guy was a relatively late in life baby. I loved being pregnant (despite the hyperemesis gravidarum) and never thought of the implications of my age versus his. The mathematics began when he was born and we'd got over the first hurdles. How old would I be when he graduated High School? how old would I be when he would be old enough to not need me? will we hit menopause/puberty at the same time? how will we survive? and so on. Scary stuff. Stuff the feminist "career first, baby later" thinkers never talked about.

And what about a sibling? Maybe ten years ago a sibling would have been a natural progression, but ten years ago I couldn't even think about having one child. I already knew my biological clock was a slow and silent ticker. The urge to have a child never sounded loud and clear; science spoke to me, telling me my eggs were frying and that if I didn't make a move I wouldn't have a choice to make. Ambivalent or what? but it happened, the Wee Guy happened. (And for that I am truly thankful we tried.) But a sibling? A sibling would require a Conscious Decision to be made and I copped out. If it was going to happen it would either have to be an accident ( a bloody amazing accident) or my biological clock would have to tick louder. Forty five was my cut off point, mainly for health reasons. Beyond this and the mathematics was unfairly stacked against the poor child. Forty five has arrived and there is no sibling. There will be no sibling.


I don't feel sad though I am touched by the Wee Guy's occasional musings on having a little brother or sister around. As I said before, I don't have a strong biological urge to procreate and I certainly don't regret not producing a tribe. I'm glad I did take that step and I now know I would have regretted not trying. I'm so glad I didn't fall into the 'having a baby is a waste of education and career' mindset we were propelled out of the seventies with. I'm glad I didn't leave it too late.

What I do feel now is a certain amount of guilt that my own fertility has been such an easy personal choice. I have been able to say 'yes, baby' and 'no, baby' in a way that is denied to many women who would say' whatever it takes, baby'. I feel like I have casually decided to reproduce, and then decided to not reproduce. I have switched my fertility on and off . I feel extremely lucky that someone as undecided, with a take it or leave it attitude, has been given a child when there are women the world over who are desperate to become mothers biologically and yet cannot.

I feel I should apologise for stopping now.

I feel that I should apologise and say, 'it's not fair that it couldn't happen to you because you so wanted to have a child whereas I wasn't really that bothered until it actually happened'.

I'm so sorry it hasn't happened to you.

Thursday, September 23, 2010

self portrait thursday: green sex

SPT eco goddess
eco-diva: thrifted clothing and boots, air drying the laundry, in front of an environmentally-friendlyly cleaned bathroom plus upcycled art on the walls and a reduced (though not recycled or re-used) butt! dammit, i'm good!

To me, saving the earth is nothing new. Along with CND, it's been with me since birth. Reducing, re-using and recycling have always been part of my life thanks in part to a very thrifty and ingenious mother. Her growing up during the war years ingrained a "make do and mend" mentality, where useful items were stashed away for the future. Both my parents were involved in growing produce in the garden; my father's responsibility was the awesome array of composting which contributed to the carbon and nitrogen cycles in the homestead. My sister and I kept guinea pigs, whose droppings were great additives to the composts. They and other family pets were also added back into the garden nutrient cycles at the appropriate times in their lives. Nothing was wasted. We were green and it was only the seventies.

Mum-&-Auntie-B
looking up towards compost corner as it eventually became

Today's green message is nothing new but now I'm noticing how slanted and biased it has become. Somehow it has become women's work. Eco hints are directed toward the lady of the house. We're cajoled into greenwashing our washing, spurred into eco-cleaners, or directed to 'make our own'. Our consciences are pricked with advice on BPA-free this child's item and phthalate-free that. Are we packing our school lunches in approved packaging? ie. non-plastic, non-disposable, non-packaging packaging? Are our choices sustainable to the nth degree? Are we sorting our recycling? Are we buying only recyclable packaging? Are we not buying packaging at all? Is our make up eco-aware? Have we checked every single chemical in the house for green-ness and toxicity? If not, why not?

flotsam brooch - dill pickle wannabe in profile
all things green, even jewelry (made from scraps and workshop demo pieces)

I'm noticing that virtually none of this green messaging is male-oriented. Most of these eco-manouvers require feminine input e.g. extra washing, increased household maintenance, thinking time at the supermarket. For example, Port Moody will be changing its garbage and kerb-side pick up in the new year. Only kitchen waste will be picked up weekly, with garbage and recycling carts being collected twice a month. Kitchen waste carts are now being rolled out to town homes as well as single family residencies in the city. I understand the message - anything recyclable should not be going into the garbage cart as it can either be recycled or composted. To do our bit we are being gently persuaded to re-think our trash output and purchasing choices. I agree.

your dinner is in the oven - crafting 365/ d49
the dreadful consequences of taking the 'no packaging' message to extremes during baking

But my main problem with this is that it loads even more work onto the woman of the household's plate. Grocery shopping is mostly women's work, and household organisation most definitely is. Who is it who will make the changes necessary to cope with the new compartmentalisation of household outgoings? Yes, in this case it will be me, in common with countless other women across the city. We will be arranging recycling strategies (new waste baskets, training the inhabitants on what to put and where, and then correcting the mistakes on a weekly basis), making buying choices and dealing with the bulk consequences (new containers, new pots, finding the lids) and finding where to put three huge disposal bins safely out of the way of bears, vermin, the husband's bike collection, the car and the kid toys.

Don't get me started on the kitchen waste! We would happily compost but our back yard is tiny, we don't grow anything, and I worry it might attract bears. So instead we will be stuck with a big and eventually smelly kitchen waste cart which we cannot line with anything impervious. I dread summer. Yes, I could wash it out but I'm only a foot or so taller than the item and I refuse to get inside to scrub. Anyway, are we also meant to be saving water and not putting detergent down the drains? I'm confused.

school fruit and veggie program offerings
future denizens of the kitchen cart (courtesy of the school fruit and veggie program)

I know no one else in the house is thinking it through. Our garage is attached to the house and I can imagine the stench, ants and flies which might invade during the summer heat. My plan of attack (forewarned is forearmed) will be to freeze waste and use Kraft bin liners to minimise unpleasantness. OK, so add 'sourcing Kraft liners' to the to do list :(

Yes, we do need to (continue to) save our planet. Yes, we do need to rethink our consumerism and waste disposal. Yes, we do need to monitor what damage we're doing to the environment. But apart from a few notable exceptions, could the men be encouraged to do some of the work too?

Apart from cars, what green decisions do men make for their eco-aware families?

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Reinvent That Scentsy Pot!

Fall Has Launched

Well today is the first day of Fall, and for most of us it signifies the onset of colors rich in burgundy, rust and golden yellow leaves with a color splash of mums popping up throughout neighborhoods and parks.

Along with this beautiful transition we experience this time of year, it also signifies the time when we begin to close our homes up for the inevitable colder weather which will soon follow. With our homes shut up tighter than a drum, this brings about stale air and household odors, which then become trapped inside......this is when I whip out my Scentsy Pot!

When the air gets really heavy in my home, even though it is freezing outside, I still try to throw my windows open for about 30 minutes once a week to clear out the congestion that builds up when a house is sealed for awhile. And as many home owners do, they also implement their air fresheners to try to mask some of these odors that hang in the air after a well cooked meal. Or some of us have pets in our homes that can tend to make our homes a bit musty.

Dusting Off My Room Freshener

What has been increasing in popularity is the Scentsy Pot. Yes....I own one of these ingenious little wax melting inventions. I used to burn scented candles years ago, but didn't care for the sooting that occurs when used frequently.

A few years back I went to a home show and saw my first Scentsy Pot and the concept was ideal for how they promoted its' safety, lack of sooting, and the mess from candles that can occur, much less the fire factor.

In this self contained pot, you have the 25 watt bulb which sits in a lovely decorative pot, which is created for many tastes with varying designs. On top sits your reservoir for holding and melting the scented wax cubes. I have mine sitting on my kitchen counter.

Also the infamous Scentsy home office and warehouse are just down the road from me in Meridian Idaho.....so that made it easy if I needed a quick purchase on the spur of the moment.

The Nose Knows

The downside to the Scentsy Pot for me is the lasting power of each cube. Disappointingly, it is only about a day from when I turn it on in the morning until I went to bed at night. When I first began purchasing the cubes, I had no idea the staying power was limited. Plus, in larger rooms a single cube won't cut it, so you need to burn more cubes to get a sustainable fragrance for what is literally only a few hours and then it slowly weakens as it fades to a scent that is only detectable when placing your nose within a foot of the pot.

The company touts that a single bar will last 80 hours and they recently went from a container size of six cubes to eight cubes. Now, in my experience they didn't come close to lasting this long. And these bars get pretty spendy at about $5.00 per bar. A bar would typically only last me about half that time. In a smaller home, bedroom or bathroom the fragrance will be more potent and last longer, but room size is a big variable when it comes to using the right number of cubes....and Scentsy states this on their website.

Also the clean up to change out scents or expended cubes was messy. You have to pour the wax out into either its' old container or into something else, and then discard it into the trash. Then you had to wipe out the bowl with paper towel before the wax hardened again or it became a nail scraping job.

The other thing that bothered me after awhile were the scents themselves. After becoming very familiar with essential oils, the fragrance oils they use in their waxes went from being a pleasant experience to not so much. I began recognizing the artificial and sometimes quite perfumey aroma as less than natural. Of course they don't tell you how the fragrances are chemically created due to proprietary info, but it was enough for me to discover a new angle on how I could use the Scentsy concept and continue to have lovely wafting aromas within my home.

Essential Oils To The Rescue

I simply love the different designs of the Scentsy Pots, no doubt about that, but I got to a point I couldn't stomach the artificial scents. My nose has gotten so sensitive, and it seems more so the older I get.

Essential Oils are known for their healing, calming, rejuvenating, uplifting, sedating, relaxing, aphrodisiac, etc, properties whether they are in a dilution to place on our skin for direct benefit, or they are used for their aromas in meditation such as aromatherapy. They create a sense of well being and are truly the essence of the plant they originate from.....not artificial. You will know the difference if you ever compare a fragrance oil to an essential oil. EO's are more earthy, heady, floral, warm and rich.

Scents Galore For All Seasons
  • In the Fall you can enjoy EO's that are spicy, nutty, earthy, woody, warm
  • In the Winter you can enjoy EO's that are spicy, sweet, honey, fresh, herbaceous, licorice
  • In the Spring you can enjoy EO's that are floral, fresh, minty, powdery, clean, soft
  • In the Summer you can enjoy EO's that are citrus, grassy, sharp, fresh, clean
Any time of the year you can enhance your home with these natural, refreshing and pleasant scents which will not only fill your home with wonderful aromas, but will bring about a sense of mood that your heart desires by choosing that particular essential oil....plus the added benefit of possibly triggering a past memory from our childhood we enjoy reliving, such as the essential fragrance a freshly cut Christmas Tree brings into a home....a true favorite for me. You can blend them to recreate that perfect aroma, which will become your most cherished.

Recipe For Reinventing That Scentsy Pot

Find out what EO's you enjoy and buy out the shop. They are relatively inexpensive by comparison to Scentsy bars due to their concentration levels. And a single dose will last all day, but at the cost per bottle these are a bargain, especially once you mix them in a medium for dispersing the fragrance.

Of course there are some EO's that will break the bank on price, but if you find it in your budget they are also fabulous. Rose Absolute for instance is incredible, but costs a whopping $250.00 an ounce. Where as Rosewood, Palmarosa or Geranium can get you close to mimicking the rose combined with other fragrance notes in their mix ranging from $5 to $12 an ounce.

Some shops have scenting bars to create a custom blend of scents, or you can find them online at various locations depending on your desires. And what you'll learn is there are many scents that mimic others, and this can be quite important especially if your favorite scent exceeds your budget.

My Recipe For Creating Bliss In My Home

Once you have chosen your favorite EO or a blend of them, fill the reservoir of your Scentsy pot with cold water and take an eye dropper and fill it with one squeeze from the bottle of your aromatherapy blend and put it into the water. This will burn off in the course of a single day and the reservoir will just about be dry and only needs to be rinsed out with warm water for the next days use.

This small amount of EO added to water will fill a large room with the most refreshing aromas you'll every experience all day. Your mood will be transformed and your house will smell wonderful....and it is completely natural and organic. And the best part is, a one ounce bottle will last a month or more depending on your usage or size of room you use it in. You can decrease or increase the eyedropper amount to preference, and it will only cost you pennies per day.

Warning: Never place pure EO in pot without water medium. It will not sustain and will burn off within a matter of an hour. Water is needed for extending the EO.

Not only are you doing something that is invigorating to the senses, but you are awakening brain cells that have long been static, and it will provide a constant state of aromatherapy in your home as you go through your day.

For those that need calm or a good nights sleep because you are at work all day, then there are EO's created just for this purpose...they can be calming, sedating and fill your body with relaxation so you can drift off to a sound sleep. Just turn off your Scentsy warmer when you awake in the morning.

So for those of you that have since put your Scentsy pot to the back of some cupboard or have not purchased one yet, I encourage you to reinvent your Scentsy with this formula, or go buy one for the purpose of health and well being, because the pots are a designers dream, since there are so many to choose from. They even offer holiday specific pots or for the change in seasons.

Hope you come to enjoy your Scentsy pot as much as I do with my EO's, and partake in a new experience recreated right in the comfort of your own home.

Cheers!

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Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

the south american connection

From Evernote:

the south american connection

Clipped from:

silliness 2.6 - a degu for the squeen
This month I'm being silly. Or, more correctly, I'm taking part in silliness
But enough of that, I'll explain more in a later post.
Through being silly, I've learned something about myself. I'm somewhat obsessed with South American mammals.
First were my portraits of the alpacas and llamas at the Pacific National Exhibition. I mean, they weren't just snaps, or casual "look mum, I saw this today" bagging. They were full-on character study portraits trying to capture the exact essence of haughty llama (risking being spat on) and winsome alpaca. I have talked tantalisingly about my llama farm idea and visitors to my other blog will know of my love for beautifully feltable alpaca fibre.
Other frequent flyers to the blog will know that I am 'mum' to two gorgeous guinea pigs (one of whom looks like George Clooney), received from freecycle two years ago.
Then this week as part of the online silliness course one of the projects included drawing a new pet for the course organiser. What to draw, what to draw?
Then I remembered reading someone's query about a degu and what it looked like. I knew they were vaguely gerbil-ly type creatures but beyond that nada (oh the benefit of a veterinary education). Google images and then Wikipedia came up trumps and my knowledge gap was no longer.
For example, did you know that degus are related to guinea pigs and also come from South America? Unlike guinea pigs (llamas and alpacas) they can use their front paws to hold food while eating. They are strict herbivores and fibre fiends (they indulge in coprophagy), so strict that a relatively small excess of free sugar turns them diabetic. 
They are the only known rodent species to sequentially stack objects in decreasing order of size .... which I guess picks them out for research into OCD as well as insulin metabolism and hand/eye coordination studies (unlike the llama, alpaca and guinea pig).
So for the next silliness assignment I drew a guinea pig.
Obsessed? Somewhat.
:)
PS: this blog post has been written using Evernote and posted via Posterous - a first and a very mobile first :)

Monday, September 20, 2010

The Top 20 Things I Learned While Living in Paris- #18 Cultivate an Air of Mystery



Last week my husband babysat while I went and treated myself to my first manicure/ pedicure in a long time. Being somewhat sleep deprived and feeling highly unglamorous, I was very much so looking forward to the experience. I did have a wonderful time (mani, pedi and 10 minute shoulder massage… heaven!) but the experience was hampered slightly by the woman in the chair next to me who was speaking loudly on her cell phone during my entire treatment. She shared lurid details about her date the night before, her status on match.com, the woe begotten details of her dwindling bank account and the fact that she hates her boss. Not only did she share these things with her friend on the other end of the phone, but also to me and an entire salon full of women.

That would never happen in France.

Living in Paris I never saw French women speaking loudly on a cell phone in public about their private life. They prefer to maintain an air of mystery. They might have a few confidants to whom they tell their innermost secrets to but I can assure you that this is not done on their cell phone in the nail salon. (In fact, it would be much more French to rapturously enjoy your manicure, pedicure and massage- not counteract the peaceful experience by stressing yourself out over your cell phone).

While people watching at a café in Paris (one of my favorite activities) I would always observe other French women in the café either alone reading or simply staring into space (probably thinking about the lurid details of their date the night before!), or, if they were sitting with a companion, speaking in hushed tones while drinking espresso. I loved imagining about the lives of these people- what they did for a living, what they were passionate about- what made them tick. Their air of mystery was so appealing.

I now avoid over-sharing about myself to people and if I need to vent to a girlfriend over the phone, I do it while walking the dog (Gatsby doesn’t mind, you know).

Along with not over-sharing cultivating a Mona Lisa smile is quite effective too. I haven’t gotten direct feedback on my quest to maintain an air of mystery but I do get a lot of curious smiles from strangers… maybe it’s working after all…

Won't you stay tuned for #17?

The above picture was taken of me (Mon Dieu I am young here!) in 2001 in the Jardin des Tuileries… It could be that the picture is rather grainy and taken almost ten years ago, but I think I look quite mysterious... non?

meet me on monday

sisters, sisters
that's me on the right btw

A new way to start the week, courtesy of Java at Never Growing Old (another 40plus blogger) via Kristin Dudish, a fellow Silliness2 alumnus (thank you for that link).

Each Sunday Java posts a set of 'getting to know you' questions on her blog and then a link up post on Monday. I think I might join in :)

This week's questions;
1. What is your favorite all time movie?
It has to be "Heathers" - deeply subversive, a choice I will probably have to hide from the Wee Guy once he's 'of age' and probably one I won't find as entertaining once he's at high school anyway, but for now it reminds me a lot of growing up relatively unpopular and on the fringes. Ah, and a wonderfully young Christian Slater (oh my youth).


2. How often do you go over the speed limit?
Never if I can help it (it's an immigrant thing). Yes, I'm the slow lady motoring up Mountain Boulevard at rush hour, sticking to the speed limit.

3. What really gives you the creeps?
Flecks of spittle at the corners of the mouth urgh.

4. What is your favorite snack?
toast, butter and honey (strangely enough, not chocolate)

5. Would you rather be a dog named Killer or a cat named Fluffy?
neither, i've never imagined myself as a non-human and don't intend starting now

PS: for silliness from me and the wee guy check here!

Sunday, September 19, 2010

team Foord


team Foord, originally uploaded by ebbandflo_pomomama.

Today we took part in the annual Port Moody Terry Fox run. It was a wet and rainy start to the day, low cloud covered the inlet and it would have been much easier to roll back over to sleep in bed than get up.
Luckily (?) mr ebb read the time on the clock wrong and we got up early (waaaaay early) to carb load for our 'race'.

So we were on time at City Hall to register, hand over our pledges, and soak up the festive atmosphere. Local musician, Tony Prophet was playing encouraging wake up and dance music to get us on our toes (and later played along during the pre race stretch and warm up - beats the usual 'thunk thunk thunk' of cardio classes), and Runners Den in Newport Village had teamed up with adidas to sponsor a football goal shoot for the kids. Good times!

striker

As you know, this is a race where nobody and everybody wins (except, hopefully, cancer). Inspired by an extremely brave young Canadian and continued by his even braver family, this event is now in its thirty years, surpassing the dollar for every Canadian which Terry initially set out to achieve.

four paws good
everybody runs, on however many feet they possess

This year, we ran in memory of a grandmother and a great grandmother. I ran, I guess, as a survivor (my tale is so mild in comparison but i still live with annual check ups) and we ran as a family for almost the total 3k course.

Teamwork.

and PS: the Terry Fox National School Run happens at the end of September - why not sponsor the Wee Guy's school?? Every little bit helps :)

Friday, September 17, 2010

friday forte: flop down

instruction manual for middle aged women
Mid life - where things start to flop down.

Mid Life Flop Downs and How To Avoid Them 
  1. Never More Than A Mouthful
    Don't struggle by trying to cram it all into one mouthful.  If you have an all-encompassing to-do list the sheer size of it can stop you dead in your tracks thus sparking Flop Down. Wisely prioritise bite-sized chunks to accomplish - for example, the last surface mailing dates for Christmas will be coming up soon (egads) so wrapping, writing cards, parceling and shipping will become priority, whereas Easter eggs, bikini waxing, and mending the puncture in the inflatable (NB: poss NSFW) will not. Just because you're in the second half of your life, there's no need to cram everything in there. Chill.

  2. Calories
    This kind of Flop Down routinely occurs mid afternoon (right about 'coming home from school time', funny that!) and is usually due to skipping lunch. While I am also trying to avoid the Midriff Flop Down common to mums aka muffin top (and the Buttocks Flop Down come to mention it), I feel it's only right to avoid the lack of energy kind too. Somehow I have to balance the calories to prevent one without leading to the other. Soup, fruit, veggies and almonds are featuring heavily in my plan of attack here.

  3. Taming the Beast
    An act of hair rebellion, suddenly it loses colour, texture and the ability to be anything but bad. Thanks to Jennyfer and some superb styling products I am avoiding this one ... so far! However, my genetic make up means I'm more likely to Frizz Out then Flop Down. I have two words - Morroccan Oil

  4. Adequate Support
    Saggy tits, admittedly a not particularly attractive version of Flop Down (but there are worse - see below, quite literally) but one that's worth juggling with. Regular trips to La Senza will help. Related to saggy butt and saggy knees, but more easily remedied. BTW, boys have problems with sagginess too, and age might not be a factor apparently.

  5. Surgery
    Yet another kind of Flop Down common to middle aged women - suddenly your jowls race to overtake your sagging tits to your disappearing waistline. There's not much I can do but sell enough jewelry to afford cosmetic surgery later on in life, exercise, and sleep on only one pillow.

  6. Dietary Tweaking
    Haemorrhoids - the ultimate in Flop Down, and a little gift from the pregnancy gods (thank you). Regular fibre, regular (and hopefully private) bathroom breaks and ..... it could be worse .... real or imaginary.

  7. Keeping It Going In The Bedroom
    Bedroom Flop Down can be incredibly frustrating and disappointing (believe me, I know all about this one) ..... but easily solved by a mattress upgrade (don't you just hate falling into an uncomfortable bed at night, then waking up in the wee small hours cos your aging bones are aching on a lumpy mattress?) A good night's sleep will leave you refreshed and ready to fight middle age Flop Downs for another day.

  8. A Spiritual Boost
    Spiritual Flop Down aka The Blah's can be due to numbers 2 or 7, or hormonal rebellion. Upping the spirits might help, in the form of wine, Amaretto, Kahlua or a nice Baileys on ice. Likewise exercise, frequent sex, chocolate and strawberries, funny films, hikes, shoes and gossip all help. If all else fails, please send George Clooney.

  9. Getting Down (on your knees) and Carpet Burn
    I have heard that yoga will keep one young, energised and flexible (and happy). I remain to be convinced - there is no way my dog is heading downwards. I will probably fall over which is not a good way of avoiding Flop Down IMO.

  10. A One-on-One Session With The Mister
    A regular session with your partner will keep things hot and heavy sweet and rosy - topics of conversation could include gravity, hair removal, finances, The Lifestyle, or pets. Communication is key to navigating mid life waters, and two minds are better than one when the memory starts to slide.

Never let a Flop Down stand in the way of a good mid-life crisis.

forte!

Thursday, September 16, 2010

self portrait thursday; the shut-eye edition


brass bud pendant, originally uploaded by ebbandflo_pomomama.

brass bud pendant

it's thursday, thursday evening and i'm working up in the eaves at my desk. the lamp is on and i'm in the middle of a small pool of light. i'm tired. my SPT photo was taken on tuesday so technically doesn't count for today, and i'm too tired to load up another :(

today i sorted thru inventory, made it out to craft with a group of mums, scheduled seven blog posts over lunch at a local cafe, then returned home for the final leg of the inventory redistribution before resuming domestic duties.

i'm tired.
i'm tired and i haven't blogged 'for myself' yet.
i have blogged but it was for a volunteer commitment (which i thoroughly enjoy, and seems to have been successful in driving up sales).
i'd really like to blog for myself tonight but i'm tired.

i'm too tired to be inspired, which is why i'm now filling the need to blog by blogging about being too tired to blog ...... so where do i go from here?

well, despite being tired, i do have plans. i'm meticulously plotting a time-in-motion study (don't laugh, mr ebb) of what i do, when i do it, and when i do it best, in an effort to schedule more efficiency into my working life. instead of drifting thru time and space i'm trying to work more intelligently.
- hence the scheduling a month's worth of blog post for the artists.
(makes mental note to do something similar with her own website).
- hence the planning big projects during the luxury of after school care days
- hence the taking notice of what works, what doesn't, where energy is best spent and what's basically just pissing in the wind a waste of time.
... and so on (which i'm too tired to detail right now)

work smarter, not longer and have some time with mr ebb in the evenings ;) unless he's still battling laptop woes.

what i'd like to end up with, is a working day that doesn't leave me doing stuff i should be enjoying when i'm knackered very tired indeed. i'd like a working day which doesn't leave me working into the late evening ..... and i think it's possible. i just need to plan and schedule and optimise every working moment.

cloud cuckoo land? maybe. but raccoon-mum land ... hmm, no thanks. i needs my sleep.

.... and the capitals? well, right now i'm too tired for shift, you know ......

Is Fragrance The Poison Dose?

Hidden Ingredients

As many of us know, when we pick up a bottle of perfume or a personal care product, a breakdown of ingredients are not divulged except for the alcohol that is found in most perfumes for dispersing the blend of scents. Otherwise, in just about every instance of commercial personal care brands, you will see the ingredient identified as "Fragrance" or "Parfum."

It is just about never that I would even think of agreeing with the EWG or the Campaign for Safe Cosmetics, but on this certain issue, I tend to be in line with their thinking on this point alone as it pertains to hidden ingredients.

It is a shocker, I know.....knock me over with a feather!

But when it comes to those with allergies or having a skin reaction I find this practice to be old school and not in keeping with the concerns that are raised by some consumers. The FDA currently allows certain ingredients to remain concealed from the public to protect what is known in the fragrance and cosmetic industry, as a "trade secret."

This may be all well and good, and some of my compatriots of my industry, on this point, we will disagree, but it actually can be broken down into distinct differences of each industry, cosmetic versus perfume.

In Love With Aromas

It is vital for those in the perfume industry to protect that signature fragrance from their competitors and its' formulation is kept top secret. In this scenario, I don't really take issue with this because we know through history that perfumes are just that, a fabricated fragrance to enhance our feeling of well being and beauty and serve no other purpose. Plus it is truly an art form to create an individualized fragrance which is the foundation of their namesake.

Certain fragrances emote fond memories from childhood or perhaps a certain time of year. Fragrance is a big part of our lives in so many things, whether it is artificial or natural. Plus it doesn't hurt any, when they are also packaged in such pretty bottles which creates a sense of femininity.

If we didn't love fragrances and how they make us feel, the Scentsy Corporation wouldn't be exploding and why others are now copying them......Scented candles have been around for decades, as have room fresheners.......Fabric softeners are used to leave our clothes not only soft, but smelling wonderful.

Yes no doubt about it, we are in love with our aromas....I love a fresh cut Christmas tree and it wouldn't be Christmas without this scent in my home.

Aside from the perfume industry, these types of fragrances are widely unregulated since they are not part of the cosmetic or beauty industry. If there are concerns about environmental issues then this task would fall to the Environmental Protection Agency.

Are Fragrances The Poison Dose?

In regard to the aromas that we purchase outside of necessity, these are a consumer choice, so in reference to protection of the trade secret, I'm 100% for it since these types of fragrances don't need to be in our homes and are strictly for the aesthetics of making ourselves feel pretty and our home....well homey!

In fact, fragrance is used to mask strong chemical odors in cleaning products to make them less noxious to our senses....but they are far from being the poison dose of our lives. I "hazard" a guess that there are more questionable and far more dangerous ingredients in these products if you asked EWG, than the fragrance they are using to mask them.

The EWG would have you believe all sorts of things in terms of them being unsafe for use and are possibly killing us, but again, we are dealing with theories and propaganda with very little scientific evidence to support it. You can avoid these altogether if you are either convinced they will do you harm or you are allergic or sensitive to certain smells. These are not being forced on the consumer and Perfumes are easy to avoid, just don't wear any or buy any.

This is where the CFSC and EWG really are over the top, since it is easy to inform consumers about concerns, but perfumes are not a necessity and if women choose to spritz on an aroma or two, then allow them their enjoyment of these luxuries. Plus their concerns are not founded on any science, including the single study on phthalates, which to date is incredibly inconclusive and is not duplicated or supported by Dr. Swans peers. Also in reviewing the skin deep database, they do not produce a single study on fragrance except to mark it a hazard score of 8, whereby this only alarms, yet it states nothing substantial.

My disappointment continues when I review EWG's site to only see a claim as to testing in excess of 72 products containing phthalates, yet don't show a single study, just a link to the "Story of Cosmetics" video with its' shameless overview of supposition without the evidence proving their accusations....just more tired fairy tales.

Any concerned consumers, and our legislators, who through their voting power are making life altering decisions, should demand to see the science from independent researchers, not those funded or maintained by Environmental Health Sciences which serves the EWG toward their research and is the reference point provided by CFSC when making their argument. Coincidentally John Peterson Myers is founder, CEO and Chief Scientist of Environmental Health Sciences and owns a green science lab, while also serving on the board of directors of the EWG. I actually find this quite humorous since they behave in the same manner as what we are accused of everyday by CFSC and its' founder Stacy Malkin, that we are self regulated and are meeting an agenda. Kind of like the "pot calling the kettle black." May I ask, who is watching EWG, their founders and their agendas, and their sources of funding? The inter working relationships within these organizations is quite telling and is for another article for the future, but not today!

Today's fragrances that are used in personal care products are very safe and are rarely used beyond 1-2% in the emulsion. IFRA (International Fragrance Association) oversees fragrance ingredients for safety. Risk assessments reports by IFRA are done on a regular basis and data reports are maintained, yet EWG and the skin deep database never displays this information.

What Is IFRA?

The International Fragrance Association (IFRA) was founded in 1973 in Geneva to represent the collective interests of the fragrance industry. Its main purpose is to promote the safe enjoyment of fragrances worldwide.

Together with the industry's scientific centre RIFM (the Research Institute for Fragrance Materials), the IFRA team makes sure that the establishment of usage standards for fragrance materials is put into practice according to the available scientific recommendations and that member companies comply with those standards. Self-regulation enables the IFRA standards to be adopted very rapidly by fragrance houses worldwide and by the industry as a whole.

All of RIFM’s scientific findings are evaluated by an independent, scientific Expert Panel — an international group of dermatologists, pathologists, toxicologists and environmental scientists.

EWG and CFSC will argue that this is a member organization of those in the industry, whereby being self regulated. Well, they are admittedly so! However, perhaps instead of attacking on this premise, it would be more important to note that there are stringent regulations imposed on its' members and must be adhered to.

So, the better choice may be, if you are wishing to purchase a fragrance, but are unsure if the ingredients they use are safe, then just like those that announce their products are certified organic, stating a perfumer is a member of IFRA would certainly give you assurances that they are using safe practices for their formulas. Furthermore they would also be required to maintain the IFRA Code of Practice as part of their membership, and rest in the knowledge the European Union also is in support of this entity for keeping information in the forefront for consumers. IFRA also provides full transparency on the chemicals which are being used in fragrances and has compiled a list for the consumer demand which will go far to inform them in the event of questionable ingredients that may or may not pose an allergic reaction. Natural and synthetic chemicals are on this list which compose many fragrances so you may see for yourself what makes a perfume.

IFRA is also proactive in working directly with Dermatologists in order to track a small percentage of the population which can and does have an allergic reaction. It has been determined about 2% of the population can have a reaction of some sort on their skin when coming in contact with a fragrance product.

This is only a small part, as many women have reactions other than a rash or irritation to their skin. Headaches, nausea, dizziness, migraines, and even irritability can be caused by using perfume or other certain products containing fragrance, whereby a fragrance which should emote pleasure does exactly the opposite to the body. Fortunately, there are many formulators that create unscented products for those that are truly sensitive.

Make no mistake however, IFRA is not without its' opponents as well, laying claims that it is ruining the perfumery and essential oil industry based on their studies and recommendations through their research. Cropwatch boycott of 40th IFRA Ammendment!

Fragrant Essential Oils

As we all know essential oils have lovely subtle aromas, that when blended in herbal remedies or into skincare products, they emote calm, relaxation, uplifting feelings to creating a sense of well being overall. They are used in healing remedies since essential oils are capable of passing into the dermis layer of skin for bringing about repair to the body.

But like all things natural, a small number of people will suffer from an allergic reaction to the skin, and in some cases also have physical reactions as the same list above for artificially created fragrance. This is a significant factor in protecting the consumer. A person may do well with citrus or spicy notes, while floral notes bring on a headache, or vice versa.

Keeping It Transparent

When it comes to skincare products, I do not believe ingredients that are used to create fragrance should be hidden. Products that are applied directly to the body should have all ingredients listed so the consumer can quickly learn if they would have a reaction or not based on past experiences. However, when it is just listed as "fragrance" or "essential oil blend" then all the consumer knows, that anything with a fragrance should be avoided.

Unfortunately, there are some wonderful fragrances being created through the use of essential oils and herbal extracts, yet the consumer is afraid to venture a guess as to the safety since they are still a fragrance in their minds eye.

Some essential oils and herbal extracts used will work wonders on a person while another set of essential oils may wreak havoc on the same person. So in this case one can certainly enjoy a fragrance if they can identify what comprises the fragrance blend. Contact dermatitis and other skin reactions are not fun and can be quite painful. I feel it is the duty as a skincare and cosmetic provider myself, to divulge what my customers are using on their skin before they make their purchase. Without this information, choice is actually removed from the customer through confusion in labeling.

Fainting From Fragrance

Now on a side note: What has been my personal experience when wearing fragrance many moons ago, is our noses can become desensitized the same way it happens with a smoker. We lose the olfactory sense of realizing the strength of a fragrance, whereby we end up bathing in the stuff, gagging those that come within 10 feet of us.

This example occurs when using the same fragrance day after day...switch to another that you haven't used for awhile and you'll see that only a tiny bit is needed according to the nose, but after awhile it seems to die out once again. But then switch back to the other and again, the nose tells you only a bit is needed. Our noses will clear and become more sensitized to different smells when we remove a familiar one from our senses. Why do you think they have coffee beans at perfume counters?

Trust me, what you once noted as a powerful scent with one spritz, is still as powerful as before....as people will attest to if they spoke up like they did with me. I had no idea until my fellow workers at my real estate office informed me I was giving everyone a headache....color me two shades embarrassed. It pretty much renders a pleasant experience into a "stinky" one.

Now that I am older, I also get repulsed by strong artificial fragrances, so now my fragrant blend of choice are the subtle aromas created through the use of essential oils. These have become my "sweet poison." Plus they do so much more than just arouse the senses.

So, in closing, keep it light, keep it simple and please remember, less is more...fragrance is not designed to fill a room so others gag, but to complement the feminine side or enhance the male attraction by those that are close enough for a hug....there in lies the attraction!

Remember, fragrances are splendid and are an attractant, but when abused they become a repellent!

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Wednesday, September 15, 2010

wordless wednesday: knee deep ...

 Got my inventory out!
all that i have made
 
.... knee deep in inventory, taking photographs, restocking online and B&Ms .... making creative plans!



chunky copper wire cuff with carnelian, tigereye, glass, vintage beads, amber, citrine and agate

"fuzzy annelli" necklace (copper chain and roving)



sterling and fused copper earrings with glass dangles


 "warm gold" wire cuff with citrine, freshwater pearls and furnace glass



"winter hips" (low calorie) opera length necklace with orange aventurine and blackstone